An empath is a person who is highly attuned to the feelings and emotions to people, animals, and the environment around them. Sometimes the empath might feel so much, they ignore their own feelings and emotions all the while pleasing others, even strangers. It can be difficult for an empath to communicate what they are feeling due to trust issues. Although the empath might know they are feeling all the feelings, but they don't understand what to do with the excess of the energy.
It's normal to feel emotionally exhausted, as an empath is always in a "helping role." To a non-empath, it's easy for them to step back and take care of themselves first. An empath, however, might feel guilty, or that it is their "job" to put everyone else first—a loved one or stranger alike.
An empath often walks around open to all the energy: good, bad, and indifferent. Think of it this way: an empath carries an empty, flimsy paper plate throughout their day. By the end of the day, that plate is heavy, leaking, and overflowing with every else's stuff. The empath is covered in the ick but feels guilty for taking an "energy" shower because that would require taking some "you" time, something an empath isn't good at doing.
If you've ever been around a child as they get sleepy, the signs are clear. The child might be extra whiney. Or even cry for no real reason. The child might rub their eyes, as if magically wishing they could stay alert. The child doesn't want to eat, even if it is a favorite food. And when their parent/caregiver tells the child that it's time for bed, the child often calls out, "But I'm not tired!" An empath who is feeling burned out with whatever life situation they are feeling often has a similar reaction. An empath often feels as if they are hiding their burnout, but it's just as prevalent to those who know them. Instead of, "But I'm not tired!," like a child might cry, an empath often replies with an, "I'm fine." Yet they aren't.
Empathy burnout is often from a person hoarding too much emotional, mental, and physical energy, and can cause negative consequences that could can burnout.
5 Signs You Are a Burned-Out Empath
There are many signs to identify you are a burned-out empath, and you might just feel that this is simply normal, but it is a sign that you are imbalanced.
5 Ways to Heal the Burned-Out Empath
Sometimes the energy gets heavy, loaded with pollution from everything around us. It might be from other people, the environment, or emotional baggage from the past and present. You can heal, though; it just takes practice. As much as it would be best to stop the burn out before it gets to that point, an empath is just doing what is normal for them, and before they know it, the burn out creeps in. Our brains go into fight-or-flight mode and our perspective narrows, and this can happen fast. So, it is beneficial to create go-to ways when the burn out happens.
I would also like to note that if you are having concerning physical symptoms, seek out a medical doctor. And if you are having suicidal thoughts, please seek out help immediately. There is hope. Empaths can be Oscar-worthy actors. There are some of you who face the challenges of getting up, pasting a smile on your face, and doing a routine called life, going to sleep, and doing it all over again. You make it look easy, but really, it's the hardest thing in the world and you don't want anyone to know the monsters you face along the way. To those of you fighting the fight of burnout, I believe in you, and know there is help.
If you are feeling alone or frustrated in a crowded world, and the weight of negativity is overwhelming, please see my book, Embrace Your Empathy: Make Sensitivity Your Strength. It helps you decipher which type of empath you might be and offers suggestions, including meditations, crystals, and even essential oil that can re-align your soul to help you better the empath within you.