Whether you're currently in a long-term, committed relationship, or just beginning your soul mate search, romantic partners can be confusing. Perhaps you connect fantastically with your new lover in the bedroom...but not so much anywhere else. Perhaps the opposite is true: your relationship feels perfect in every way except when it enters the bedroom. How can partnerships match up in some ways, but not others? How can we learn to be ourselves—and give our partners the same privilege—without causing friction? The answers to these questions (and many others) are found in the 3,000 year-old ancient Chinese secret of The Five Elements. It's all about your energy. Whether you know it or not, your energy is interacting with your lover's energy, everyday, twenty-four hours a day. Yes, even while you sleep together, your energies are co-mingling! With the power of the Five Elements, discover what you truly want in a relationship, find a lover who matches you energetically, and make your relationship longer-lasting and romantically charged. By learning the Elemental Energy types of you and your partner, you can build a true connection without unrealistic expectations. First, take a romantic and spiritual journey to discover a mystical and magical new world…and the first assignment is looking at yourself. You must understand your true, authentic self before you can understand anyone else. What Are the Chinese Elements? The Five Elements don't only relate to love; they relate to everything, including the seasons of the year. They influence every aspect of life and even how people move. Every movement you make is influenced energetically by these Five Elements. What Element are you: Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal, or Water? Every person has all Five energies—just in a different order, or what we call your "stack up" of Elements. Your first Element is what your current lover responds to most often. It's also the Element that motivates you in life. It is the primary way you move in life and in love. Our book, The Energy of Love, presents various ways to identify key traits and attributes of the Five Elements in any person, so you can identify your first Element (as well as your others) and that of your partner. Read the descriptions below to see which Element resonates with you more than the others:
If you're the Wood Element, then you're a natural leader with a friendly yet commanding tone of voice. When you speak, people come to attention (not to mention dogs). When you're in a good place in life, you can be quite charismatic when you want to be. You're playful, fun-loving, good at negotiating deals (big or small), and gracious when winning competitive events. In a mate, you might be looking for someone who is interested in doing interesting things with you, someone who can keep up with the flurry of activities and hobbies you might have. You like to do big things in life. Simple dating isn't enough; you need to make sure your dates have the best experiences possible, especially in the beginning of the romance. When you're happy, everyone is happy—and you're happy when you can make your lover happy. Some Elemental types enjoy slow, lazy sex. Not Wood! For Wood, sex is an athletic event—with a lot of sweat and effort for the ultimate achievement. You strive for the win-win in the bedroom as well as in the boardroom. Woods can sometime approach dating like it's fourth quarter at the Super Bowl with two minutes left on the clock. You've got a goal, and a strategy, and it's time to execute the plan. You find the best restaurant and somehow get a table reservation. You might love to find the best cool thing to do for a first date (hot air balloon, hike to a secret waterfall, or VIP box seats at a baseball game.) You can tackle all this with the seriousness of negotiating an important contract. If you are really into someone, you're intent on winning them over, no matter what. It is the Wood way.
Love: Want It, Find It, Keep It! Want It In fact, the type of person you're attracted to energetically is much more about where you are in your life, today, right now. Most people go through different periods of their lives where they're more attracted to a particular energy or another. These attractions shift and change as you mature. In your younger years, you might want someone who is your opposite energy. Opposites attract, right? It's true in the Five Elements as well. If you look at the majority of young adult relationships, you'll find this to be true energetically. They often pick people who are very different, which amplifies the sexual attraction. Conversely, people in midlife often gravitate to relationships that are very compatible and may not have as much sexual "heat" initially. The question is: what type of relationship do you want right now in your life? To find the relationship you're looking for, first take some time to evaluate where you are in your life. Usually lovers have different energy types. Truthfully, it can be a little boring to partner with someone who is the same energy—like dating yourself. But maybe you just want someone to really, truly get you like no other. Dating someone of the same energy type would achieve this goal. Or perhaps you want a relationship with more spice and fire? Someone with the opposite energy will bring you the excitement you're looking for. If you want something that feels easy and calm but with enough variety to make it interesting, you can find someone whose energy type is more compatible to yours. Let your stage of life guide you as to what you truly desire right now. Find It If, after you start the first date, you are thinking this is not "the one," you can still enjoy the date of course, but now you can really decide if that second date is going to happen. You'll better know what you want and how to find love and romance. It's time to be true to yourself and not settle for the first person that comes along and is interested in you. However, if this new person is the type you've been looking for, you'll now have some new tools to foster better communication. The Energy of Love explains the differences in how each Elemental type thinks, acts, and loves—to the point where you could almost predict how they will be energetically. Imagine knowing better what NOT to say on those first dates so you don't send that perfect lover running in the opposite direction! Keep It The Five Elements bring acceptance to relationships. Understanding them helps you accept your lover's "quirks" as the normal behavior for people of their energy type. That way, when your partner does the darnedest things that used to make no sense whatsoever, you no longer feel compelled to ask your partner to be someone they're not. This is the biggest gift to your relationship. From that place you can grow and learn in a positive way. You can even learn, from a place of acceptance, how to modify your natural behaviors because you love each other. We have found that in most cases, if both partners take an interest in the Five Elements and how it affects their relationship, they can work out their differences. It takes two to tango, so go out and dance the dance of a lifetime with The Energy of Love. |